The Book I Keep Going Back To
"Those working 33/6 energy, with their high ideals and acute sensitivity, tend to feel disheartened by the problems and imperfections of the world, but they suppress their sadness and even their anger as they attempt to 'do the right thing' due to their high standards."
WHOA! Self-awareness mic drop.
It took me a few times to let this all soak in. I haven't read from this book in a while and just this month I've been struggling with my lack of acknowledgement to uncomfortable feelings. I do in fact spend a fair amount of time suppressing anger and sadness in my desire to "fix" things. There is nothing I love more than solving a problem. This among other things inspired many a jaw dropping moment as I read through my 33/6 section.
A friend introduced me to Dan Millman and The Life You Were Born To Live years ago. She's a cool friend. I highly recommend checking her out. She also happens to be the most feelingy feeler of all, and I know I still have lots to learn from her.
I come back to the book about once a year. It seems to call me back when I'm ready for the next evolution, when I'm ready to read about me in a whole new way. Every time I dig in it blows me away!
Here's how I've been working through the feeling avoidance in the model (Brooke's Self Coaching Scholars was all about emotions in November. She's amazing!):
"The Model"- a Brooke Castillo process, with an Amanda Kingsley twist...
SITUATION
- Avoiding icky feelings
THOUGHT ABOUT THE SITUATION
- “I don't want to feel negative feelings. I'd rather go find a way to "fix" things.”
THE FEELING THIS THOUGHT TRIGGERS
- This is tricky. For me the first feeling is excitement about the challenge of a problem to be solved, but when I dig a little deeper, there's a FEAR of feeling the feelings.
THE ACTION TAKEN FROM THIS FEELING
- Skip the feeling and get busy.
THE RESULT OF THIS ACTION
- Not only am I avoiding my own feelings, but in many cases I am unintentionally neglecting to acknowledge that those around me are also experiencing emotions that they might not be ready to "push" through. This often causes a miscommunication in relationship in which misunderstanding arises.
ASK (Is this in alignment with my WHY?)
-No
The Model applied for realignment:
SAME SITUATION
- Avoiding icky feelings
NEW THOUGHT ABOUT THE SAME SITUATION
- “Is this feeling serving me in anyway? Can I sit with it a little longer?""
THE NEW FEELING THIS THOUGHT TRIGGERS
- Curiousity
THE NEW ACTION TAKEN FROM THIS FEELING
- Stop and think.
THE RESULT
- Bringing deeper awareness to the purpose of my feelings, and slowing down the "fix it" desire, which results in even more purposeful and effective action.
ASK (Is this in alignment with my WHY?)
-YES!
WIN!
