At this point there are more than a few of you who are wondering, "what's the scoop with this WHY word Amanda keeps talking about?" The scoop is that once you identify it, lean into it, and live it, EVERYTHING changes.
We all have voices in our heads. They come from various beliefs, psychological realities, and stories we've been told. I propose that the voice we all want to add, the voice who will save us from the human trap of fear, pain, and stuckness, is the voice of your WHY word.
Not a single person among us is free from crud that gets in the way. For me the most consistently effective crud that clogs up my wheels is my relationship with money. When I dig deep, it is of course not about money itself at all, but part of a much larger picture I'm working on re-painting in my life.
For lots of reasons June is a full of life month that comes with some extra expenses. These expenses are all related to spending money for experiences that create JOY, this is the beginning of the fun money season, otherwise know as summer. June is also BUSY, any parent would agree. Because it's busy I can easily find myself indulging in overwhelm, which throws me off my game and makes little things feel like big things. I.E. "money" stress feel like "life" stress.
Regardless of the fact that I made more money last month than I ever have to date, fun money season triggered all my crud to come bubbling back up stirring things like: blame, anger, shame, guilt, sadness, regret, victimization... the list goes on my friends. I'm human too, I feel these feelings just like you, but I refuse to let them take over. I lean into my WHY and choose to step back into the life I want to live, not the one the old stories tell me I should come back to.
I want to show you what this looks like. Living your WHY isn't one stop shopping. It's a lifestyle of choosing to believe you are capable of rising above the crud. It's seeing your thoughts for what they really are and allowing new WHY thoughts to replace them. My WHY word is GROWTH and today GROWTH turned my frown upside down. In the moment it looks like this:
Overwhelm says- It's too much. I can't handle it.
Guilt says- Get yourself together. There are people counting on you.
GROWTH says- Take a deep breath. Feel the feelings, decide what end result you want and take it step by step.
Overwhelm says- What the F*^K? There's so much to do.
Guilt says- If you were a better mom you would have taught your kids to contribute more.
GROWTH says- This is a season. This too shall pass. Everything is gonna be ok.
Overwhelm says- I just want to curl up in a ball and cry.
Guilt says- Be stronger than that. It's not that big a deal.
GROWTH says- Strong people cry too. It's the way forward.
Overwhelm says- There's never enough. Why can't we get ahead?
Guilt says- If you were a regular working mom, there would be a steady paycheck to lessen the burden.
GROWTH says- Keep following your calling. You are so good at what you do. The money is on it's way to you.
Overwhelm says- Maybe you made a mistake. Maybe you took a wrong turn. Maybe you need to bail.
Guilt says- Bailing is the easy way out, not the right way out. Why would you think that?
GROWTH says- There are no mistakes. Keep tapping into love.
I choose GROWTH.
What do you choose?
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