Acceptance After Abortion
Episode 4 of Master Coach Week
Sarah Yost is a Master Certified Coach. She is the host of The Business Therapy Podcast. She specializes in helping formerly high functioning business owners overcome mid-life mental health challenges so they can once again love their life and business. She has personally overcome a nearly devastating period where her brain barely worked. This was after 25 years committed to personal development. She went from enjoying a successful business to being highly anxious, erratic and barely able to function. Now, she has a full coaching practice and a full and thriving life. You can find her at www.sarahyost.com
Show Notes:
1:30 Sarah’s Podcast Business Therapy
2:08 Sarah’s Introduction- “I was always looking for ways to help my clients… everything I learned really helped but nothing really cut it the way that coaching did”
4:26 Sarah’s personal abortion story, growing up in Wichita Kansas where physician George Tiller was killed for his work as an abortion provider
7:00 “It was so traumatic and scary and sad. I couldn’t understand why because I was super pro-choice.”
9:05 “What’s the big deal? Why is this so traumatic for me?”
10:22 Most adults are still in the stage at which the abortion conversation is about bumper stickers and billboards, not real people
11:18 “I acted out a lot; I lost it emotionally”
12:10 “Part of becoming sober (as a senior in highschool) was trying to fix all the things that were bothering me”
12:56 “The way I got some peace was to realize I hadn’t done the best I could… I knew I couldn’t stay sober for 6 more months… That was the first significant freedom I got.”
14:40 “I’d been trying to tell myself really nice things about the abortion” The truth was literally freeing.
17:12 “Most people don’t get and stay sober, and I am still sober at 27 years… there was an opening in the ether and I slipped in”
18:22 “I wanted another baby with my boyfriend… thank God I did not.”
19:10 Primal desire to have another baby after an abortion
20:04 “While I believe that it’s a fetus and a tissue, in my connection I think of it as a child, and I actually think about that child a lot”
20:50 “something about connection is why I wanted it in the physical; I didn’t know how to have a relationship in the spiritual”
22:45 “My belief is that we choose our parents and our path before we come here… which means he knew that this would happen, so nothing went wrong”
25:03 Sarah’s 3 As: Awareness, Acceptance, & Action
25:45 “Any secret that you have, whether it’s small or large is going to eat away at your present… find a witness… share all of it with another human.”
27:19 “Humans are designed to work in community; even humans that don’t like other humans”
27:54 My truth being witnessed will set me free
28:10 “What was happening inside of me was confusing”
28:26 “You have to hold space for a lot of things inside yourself”
28:49 Acceptance feel like “Relief- a complete letting go”; acceptance clears the space
29:26 “There’s no way to override acceptance; you can’t just throw some positive thoughts on top of that shit.”
30:33 “I’m not the woman who was in that situation, so I won’t have that experience again”
31:04 “I also can’t be a young woman who lays there and takes it. I also have to advocate for myself”
31:47 “I have to be strong yet vulnerable”
32:00 It’s worth showing up to unpack this stuff in yourself
32:19 “You can pray forward and you can pray backwards”
35:08 “The power of being clean with this”
36:07 “No matter what you’ve done, there is nothing wrong with you.”
