Buffering to Avoid Feelings
Lana is a fertility survivor, dog mom, and guide to women looking to create meaningful lives without motherhood. Her experience with infertility and buffering mirrors many of the same struggles as ours with abortion.
Visit Lana’s website at: https://stitchcoaching.com/
Show Notes:
0:53 Sherry Price Stop Overdrinking after abortion
2:05 Lana’s intro
4:12 “Really what buffering is is looking for something outside of you, something that you can go to to avoid feeling a feeling or thinking a thought you are having… that will take me away from that feeling”
5:39 Corinne Crabtree
What are you trying to solve with food?
6:56 “I knew that I wanted to serve women in the infertility space… we cocoon ourselves because we judge ourselves a lot”
9:57 “If I don’t do these things, what the hell am I gonna do with my life”
11:48 Not being okay with the unknown of the space and filling it in
Brooke Castillo- Bored Choices
12:58 “I’ve gotten to the point… dreaming about the possibilities”
13:32 “I never even asked myself if I wanted to be a mom… I just assumed”
14:27 “learning to love your life again… you feel like you can’t dream because you don’t have this thing that you thought was supposed to complete you”
14:50 IG post - see that space as opportunity
17:19 “I think the biggest thing was not judging myself”
What to do when you are noticing yourself buffering?
24:47 “I’ve made a commitment to myself; I’m gonna get curious about why I continued”
25:10 What’s going on? What am I trying to avoid?
25:39 “We forget to just be human”
Afraid to feel in front of other people
Recognizing what your friendships are based on
27:53 “As I’ve become more aware of my buffering… true connections have become even deeper… I’m tapped in on the moment”
29:00 The other infertility episode
29:30 Judgment parallels with infertility and IVF, and God’s will and reproduction
31:48 “Not looking at someone, but just having love for their story”
32:32 “It’s okay to do what you want to do”
That opinion/story gets to exist in the world
33:11 “having a child… doesn’t define who you are… those are just added things”
What am I trying not to know?
36:30 “I love that we have the options as women, to decide which way to go”
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